I paid the 5% OTP one week ago and I got it.
Just T.O.P, took up a 2 years fixed lock in. Good catch.
Welcome to my new virtual space.
I met a long lost couple friend just recently.
They are getting married. Congrats.
I asked the question when he is away.
“Why do you think he’s the one?”
And I asked the question once again when she is away.
“Because I know that he is someone who can take care of me very well.” followed by a shy grin on her face.
“Because I love her.” with a blank yet sincere look on his.
It’s all starting to make sense. Or not.
One gets married because she wants to be taken good care of.
Another gets married because he loves her
Marriage is definitely not a tool to secure a care taker. You can employ one outside.
Marriage is about true love, isn’t it?
Or, Am I wrong from this perspective?
Everyday, there are millions of liars out there. The salesperson that is trying to sell his products, the food stall auntie telling you it’s all sold out, your employee telling you he is late for work because his cat just gave birth to a dog, the NS boy telling the doctor how sick he is by the mosquito bites and so on.. etc…
Will I be offended by them? A hell NO.. Their lies doesn’t have the ability to change my life and affect my emotions. Reason being, they are in no way related to my future, my life.
But what if that someone holds an important role in your life? Yes, the disappointment will sets in and stay there for a period of time, affecting your daily life, and most importantly, how you look at him again. Don’t ever think that it is just a small white lie. When the truth is out, you will lose that trust the person have for you.
It takes one lie, to cover up for another, and another, and yet another. Boys and girls out there, lying requires a certain level of skills to successfully hide what you are trying to. You shouldn’t execute this thought if you are not experience enough.
I strongly urge you to think it through before you even begin to lie. Trust me, it is very tiring for both parties. Most importantly, don’t take the risk to shatter the most important element in all relationship.
It’s called Trust.
To write a love story, isn’t it nice to just keep it simple and happily ever after? If it is me, I will write a very simple love story. Boy meets girl, fall in love, married with kids. The end.
Because this is what I look forward to in reality.
So tired, so tired…
0031hrs.
Just had my regular coffee session with a close friend of mine. Had a nice chat with him about our goals, investments and our dreams. I understand, and agree from the conversation that when one is working towards their goals, they tend to be blinded by other factors.
A great example to share. This person, lets call him John. 8 years ago, John was a student in a college and he is stubborn like hell. Unwilling to take any form of pocket money from his parents because he wants to prove that he can survive by juggling between a part time job, and managing his schoolwork. The year end holiday is approaching, and he wants to save up his first $5000 by school reopen, so that he can focus on his final year.
John manage to secure 2 part time jobs. Right after his last paper, will be the first step to earn his $5000. From 9am to 6am in this particular cafe, and 630pm to 1130pm at another cafe. EVERY weekday. On Friday, he finished at 1am, and on Saturday, he finished at 3am. A fine young man, full of energy like a bull. He have absolute no problem with the working hours.
A month later while at work, he received a phone call from his brother at 545pm, telling him that their grandfather is very sick, and might not be able to hold on for long. John thought about it.
“Should he proceed to the other workplace?”
Foolish John went ahead. At 7pm, His brother called.
His grandfather has left the world. John will never be able to see him ever again.
If, he chose to go straight to the hospital, he will be able to hold his hands, and tell him that magical sentence.
“I love you.”
At his grandfather’s wake, he starts to see things clearer. He have not met his relatives and cousins for a long time. He realise one more thing. His own beloved father, is sick as well. His cancer has relapsed recently after 3 years. The cells have spread to his shoulder and he have difficulty turning his head. He, did not even notice it even though they are staying under the same roof. That busy lifestyle have stopped the communication he has with his family all along. He is just too focus in working towards his $5000 goal. After the funeral, he quit his job and stayed home to spend more time with his dad.
But then, it was all too late.
3 months later, his dad pass away.
Having a goal is indeed a good thing in life. To work hard and achieve what you want. In the process of achieving it, you might gain some, and lose some. If you can afford to lose it, carry on with what you have set upon. If you can’t, slow down and amend the route. Make sure there’s a balance before continuing the journey.
Reaching your goal slower but with a clear conscious and happy mindset, is much fulfilling then reaching your goal fast, but in the process, you have regrets and losing things that you can’t afford to lose.
Today, John is a happier man. He might not be successful in his career yet, but he definitely knows the correct way to balance things out with his love ones. When the time comes for his career to take off, he knows that he have got plenty of people to share the happiness with. He is just waiting for that very moment, when happiness shine onto him like the morning rays.
0115hrs
A guru once said this to me.
For someone who knows how, can never be out of job.
For someone who ask why, will give them a job.
I like the above statement. It just remind me to keep on asking WHY.
0212Hrs,
At this hour, it’s the best time to think about how the day is. Really wish for someone to talk to, but I guess those eligible species are all asleep. Any late night owls out there where we can share our problems together?
When 2 of my favourite songs met, they created such beautiful melody that I thought I can only dream about. It totally brighten up my morning.
Taylor Swift’s Love Story meets Coldplay’s Viva La Vida
Drinking gives me abundance of courage to say things that I don’t wish to mention.
This is going to change.
Mr Hyde is going to camp deep inside me for a long time from NOW onwards.
Yes, talk is cheap like I always said. But the words always work hand in hand with my sub-conscience mind to execute actions when I am a little overdose. Doing stupid things that if given a choice, I would like to reverse the whole process.
Right now,
The beer boy in me will continue to love the malt barley drink. Not with limitation, but with total control.
My godmother recently ask me what is blissful in my opinion. There are millions of scenarios to relate blissful act, such as this one that I witness today.
While resting at the stadium after a fruitful jog with my friend, I saw an old lady sitting alone at the corner of the bench looking at someone out in the running track. 15 minutes later, a fine old gentlemen walk up to her slowly. They met and they smile at each other. Slowly, this sweet old couple then head for the exit, holding hands. I estimate their marriage is at a healthy figure of 30 years. Imagine living together with your love one for 3 decades, and still very much in love.
I smile to myself.
So, here I am in the midst of Chinese New Year writing a blog. It has to be related to CNY somehow right?
Yes indeed.
Happy END of Chinese New Year.
Time to grow my wealth now.
There are plenty of priorities for a guy in the late 20s, which is, Ahem..my age ( I am proud to admit I am 28 this year).
Let me see..
Career? Investments? Family? Properties? There are so many to list but the one I am going to discuss about is Marriage.
Yes, Andy is not going to get married so soon, so don’t let your mind escalate to an irrational stage. I am just dead curious about what kind of answer they would have if I were to post that question. A question that has been running around in my mind for some time.
Why do you think he/she is the one?
In my context, Marriage is not a “just because we are together for so long, then we have to get married” thing. I am talking about LIFETIME Commitments and Responsibility plus plenty of PURE love towards the other half. When you are looking for a girlfriend/boyfriend in your younger days, I believe what you are actually looking for is LOVE and FUN. Someone to hang out with when you are bore, someone to hold your hands and whisper sweet rubbish. As you grow older to a wiser stage( which bluntly translate to older stage), Ask yourself this question. Why do you think he/she is the one? The one that will stay with you for the rest of your life.
Give it a thought.
Back to the topic, and so I went around asking those people who are married. There’s million and one answers to that question due to the boring fact that no one is the same.
I ask myself what kind of person I want to stick with, for the REST OF MY LIFE.
I found the answer, it is a very simple answer again.
And no, I am not going to reveal here.
BUT,
I can share with you what majority says.
“You can just feel it.”
Simple isn’t it?
I just feel so comforting, to have my very good friends with me when I am sad. Mr Leong and Mr Loh in fact. Both read a lot, from there their analytical skills are always improving. Whatever problems I face, the both of them always enlighten me in a very rational manner. These few days, I did a lot of self discovery to find out what I really want at this current stage. Although there’s no final conclusion yet, but I seems to know what exactly is the best for me. Thank you my friends.
I guess at my age, I have filter out who can be, and can’t be as a friend. Someone whom I can really call Friend. The fact that at the age of 28, I have successfully educate myself in the world of friendship. Be nice to me, understanding, appreciative, joke with me, go through bad times with me. But I am sorry, you won’t be label as a friend in my dictionary so fast. You will just be an affiliate of mine. My apologies again, because the fact that throughout my growing up years, I make friends, or so called “Friends” easily. Friends who do unpleasant things to me to benefit themselves. That’s why it’s never easy for me to label one as a friend.
Mr Leong was telling me about Mr Hyde. How interesting, go Google it if you want to know more, the internet is there for a reason. Yes, Part of My Mr Hyde just came out and wrote this entry. Dun blame him on being so defensive. Instead, try to understand him.
What I have in mind now, is to strengthen my Dr Jekyll. I want to master the art of understanding and reading people. It can be through a person’s mind, or his actions. Talk is cheap, I don’t believe in words any more.
Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. What an Interesting theory.
I still remember I dread going to the barber when I was young. I hate the smell and sound of that shaver, the inconsistancy of the final look. It is always a different look. Once I step out of the barber shop, a gloomy day awaits.
Nowadays, I love going for a haircut, because there is a whole new different meaning to it. It is never the smell of the salon, the end products, or even the hair wash. It is the person cutting it. Someone that I have let her cut my hair for … 9 years, and counting. It is a therapy to me. Whenever I am down and out, she is definitely one of the person that care and advice me. In my heart, I know that sometimes she is lying about the advice she said. But honestly I won’t be bothered by it. White lies do help motivate a person when he’s at a crossroad. She meant well. At the very least, she took the effort to lie, just to make me feel better. At least she care.
Throughout these years, she share with me her opinions on all aspects, which I am more than willing to hear. All aspects..Jokes, relationships, family, career, investments, business, health.. you name it, she got it. I don’t have to say what issues I am facing, she can guess it correctly all the time. It’s really nice to have someone that understand you all the time.
It really is a nice feeling.
looking forward to my next visit.
